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View Poll Results: What is your number one sticking point?

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  • Approaching Women

    81 24.62%
  • Talking To Women

    58 17.63%
  • Getting Women To Become Attracted To You

    83 25.23%
  • Keeping Women Attracted To You

    86 26.14%
  • Getting A Girl To Kiss You

    38 11.55%
  • Getting A Girls Number

    24 7.29%
  • Having Great Dates

    33 10.03%
  • Getting And Keeping A Girlfriend

    52 15.81%
  • Getting Laid

    57 17.33%
  • All Of The Above

    77 23.40%
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Thread: Help Me Help You - A Special Request From Bill Preston

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    Default Re: Help Me Help You - A Special Request From Bill Preston

    Carlos puts out great material....I found out about you through one of his programs. Thanks to both of you for not claiming to know everything and forwarding us to those who may know more about a particular aspect of attraction. Keep up the great work!!!

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    Default Re: Help Me Help You - A Special Request From Bill Preston

    Brand new to Forum. I have begun with 'Help me help you'. I selected the problem: 'Talking to women' But it is also 'Approaching women'. Also fear of rejection and being humiliated. I'm sure many other guys suffer same fear. Briefly, I suffered lot of pain from being bullied, abused, humiliated at hands of women, when a child. Like Pavlov's dogs and bells, when around certain women, beautiful, sexy ones, those bells are triggered. My throat tightens and I tense up.
    You know, it's the fear of being caused the same pain again. But the pain and frustration from avoiding and not approaching is just as bad. Worse. It's a lifetime problem. Anyone got any suggestions or similar experience? And many thanks to Bill Preston for your work and to this Forum.
    From: mycool

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    Default Re: Help Me Help You - A Special Request From Bill Preston

    Well sir girls are like a mystery to me..i certainly would love to know them more and feel them even closely..by the way thank you for your kind effort..

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    Default Re: Help Me Help You - A Special Request From Bill Preston

    Quote Originally Posted by sinister View Post
    I voted for getting and keeping a girlfriend... The problem I have here is not getting one. Thats too easy. The problem I find myself having most is not getting bored with them. Usually every girl I seduce, I end up being bored with after 3 or 4 weeks tops.

    Then I come to my next sticking point. Letting her down easy so as to not screw her up for the next guy. I usually do everything in my power to make her make the decision however I have found myself a few times in some sticky situations with crazy girls. If anyone has advice on letting her down easy that would save me about a week or more of being stuck in somtehing i no longer want to be in.
    I was just reading through different posts, (some a little older) & I can totally relate to this!

    After spending the past 22 years in 2 marriages, being single again allowed me to "shop around" for the first time in forever!

    I noticed I've had the same problem.... after a few weeks, it's like the shine wore off of the new toy. It probably didn't help that I've been constantly working on my game, & talking to new girls all the time.... and the fact that the newer girls were getting to be hotter & hotter as my confidence level & my experience increased.

    So, it was kinda like; I have this cute 7... but I've got this cuter 8 on the hook, so I have to throw the 7 back in the pond to reel in the bigger catch.
    Then, while I've got the 8, I snag a 9 or 10, and guess what happens?

    I suppose it would be beneficial when I DO decide to lock one in for keeps, that I disengage my game with other women & focus my energy on KEEPING things fresh & fun.

    Hmmmm



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    Post Re: Help Me Help You - A Special Request From Bill Preston

    Quote Originally Posted by Bill Preston View Post
    I am looking for feedback on what you need most.

    So tell me, what is your biggest sticking point when it comes to meeting, attracting and dating women.

    What ONE thing is holding you back from the success you desire with women.

    Answer the poll above and provide more details below.

    Thanks!
    Bill
    Is it not that the problem is always your current threshold. Let me explain futher:

    Have you ever lost something for sometime and then found it in an unexpecting place? After has someone then said; "Always in the last place you look, huh?"

    Well, who in their right mind will continue searching for something they have already found... Of course it was in the last place you look!

    The progression of the Pick-up arts are very similar. Except consider the target as the item you lost and your openers as the places you have looked. If you have looked somewhere, or used an opener, and were unsuccessful you should not repeat that action.

    Now say you found what you were looking for or used a successful opener. Are you going to continue to search? Are you going to continue trying to find an opener after you found one that works? NO!

    A true master will understand how to use what works. Repetition is your friend. Whatever level you seem to find yourself having trouble with you can overcome.

    You may want to review you approach and look for something you can do to avoid the negative outcome or rejections you have been facing. With thought and dedication any obstacle can be overcome. So if you feel as if you will never be able to kiss close, or Bounce to an instant date, get a number, or just successfully open a set... Hang in there. You can and will.
    "I got 99 problems but a chick aint one." Jay-Z

    "Hurd that" DaKevSterOni

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    Default Re: Help Me Help You - A Special Request From Bill Preston

    I selected aproaching a woman. I get AA and then my first thought is "I'll meet some girl another time". Only after I meet a girl through friends or something do I actually start getting them interested in me etc. But the only girl I've aproached and didn't know, turned out to be lesbian and is now a friend. I don't know if this is why I don't go for girls anymore but it's really got me stuck

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    Default Re: Help Me Help You - A Special Request From Bill Preston

    Quote Originally Posted by Arunex View Post
    I selected aproaching a woman. I get AA and then my first thought is "I'll meet some girl another time". Only after I meet a girl through friends or something do I actually start getting them interested in me etc. But the only girl I've aproached and didn't know, turned out to be lesbian and is now a friend. I don't know if this is why I don't go for girls anymore but it's really got me stuck
    First things first... Nice job picking up a lesbian. That's harder then anything else you can do in the field. A nice side project for you could be to turn that chick straight while getting yourself out of the friend zone... Lol. but wait till you practice a little more.

    This is what you need my friend. STOP THINKING!

    The fact your on the forum means you surely have came across someone talking about openers. Find an opener you are comfortable with. One that fits your style. Then start using it.

    Every one has AA when they first start in the trade. They only way to manage and overcome your anxiety is to face it. Start talking to everyone. I am talking about women, men, couples, the elderly, acquaintances, strangers, etc, etc...

    Soon enough you will see that people are people. Your only afraid of your own insecurities. By being more sociable in general it will make you more comfortable while engaging an actual target.

    Cheers.
    "I got 99 problems but a chick aint one." Jay-Z

    "Hurd that" DaKevSterOni

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    Default Re: Help Me Help You - A Special Request From Bill Preston

    My issue is the conversation, I can approach with no problem, it's the conversational part I have a hard time with.

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    Default Re: Help Me Help You - A Special Request From Bill Preston

    I am picky...I have pass on several opportunities with Japanese women, since the particular girls I have met, are easy. I like a girl that is not that easy...I want to feel the thrill of the chase. I want her to make me work my skills...the pleasure of the hunt is the chase!

    P.S.
    That what is difficult to get is worth more...and only a few can get it!

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    Default Re: Help Me Help You - A Special Request From Bill Preston

    Hey,

    I've just joined for various reasons and, like everyone, I was told to post at some point in the next 24 hours so I chose this post as it was convenient.

    I guess I can resonate with Poet's post bout being a perfectionist a fair bit. I wouldn't class myself as terrible with women but I do lack a serious cutting edge. I've joined for a few reasons I guess. I haven't had a long term girlfriend since 2009 (having said that I'd only be happy with the right person) but after an 18 month dry spell from 2010-2012 (I must stress that I did decline a couple of offers of sex in that time as I need that spark to get me interested, I'm not interested in something too easy) I had a one night stand with a girl I met on a night out. It went well, dated and text each other for a couple of weeks but then it ended abruptly. She was someone I was really interested in, so after a week of picking myself up and dusting myself off I decided it was time to see what I was doing wrong. I read Understand Attraction by Adam Lyons and I've just finished The Game. I've come to realise that I've messed up a lot of things for certain reasons, however, I have also been doing a lot of things very well without eve knowing it. I'm looking for some direction and a mentor really. I have potential and I need to build on it.

    Thanks to anyone who has read this, would love some feedback and would love some contacts in my area.

    Cheers guys,

    Grafter


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