[Virgil]

If you want to find a local PUA, just post in the 'looking for a wingman' section. You never know, someone might be in your neighbourhood.

[Robbman]

I checked all of the above as well, all though their are some of the traits mentioned I am okay with. I want to master the entire game again, My problem is the lack of confidence in myself. I had a bad experience with a woman I was engaged too time to walk the walk and regain the confidence I once lost.

[Rabbit]

hey guys new to this and new to the city of perth (got here early this year).my biggest problem is approaching or approaching in the right way so keep them interested.maybe i'm over thinking it??

[Oseman]

i chose aproach...mostly because i am from a small town but with alot of bars...and there re some fine women here, just always with guys and never alone so i havnt been sold the pua general method actually works with these girls because this isnt L.A. with beautiful women everywhere you look. Its not approach anxiety, as I dont have a problem with that- its approaching knowing if i got 5 minutes i could instantly interest her, just the girls are "good girls" here or surrounded by 5 guys constantly.

[Seducer_BR]

O never had problems getting laid or keeping a relationship, but always had a hard time approaching women. The first 2 minutes are always the worst.

[Samuelcastle66]

Originally Posted by Virgil

I've ticked 'all of the above'. I'm 22 years old. I have severe AA which is the reason I still haven't approached despite reading PUA for like a year now. Just look at my number of posts. I've been on like 1 or 2 dates in my entire life. I can't really tell if girls that I regularly see (classmates, friends of my sister, etc) find me attractive. I've kissed 3 girls in the last 10 years.

I feel like I have no problem talking to women or attracting them at first, but I find keeping them attracted to me and all the rest difficult.

My main sticking point is fear. Fear of approaching and, with girls that I already know, a lot of fear doing anything that might obviously signal my interest in them (from kino higher up the ladder than touching an arm to asking them out).

Despite it all I have a very positive attitude towards women, PUA and my future regarding both.

I'm literally in the EXACT same spot you are. I went to the club last night all pumped walked through the door, saw a attractive woman smile and wave at me across the floor, and got terrified. I literally sat the table and saw her look of dissapointment as she walked off with another guy several minutes later. I was crushed. But thats been a common occurence and it sucks big time!! I though I was the only one with the problem with everything so its nice to know I'm not.

[Rho89]

I've always found it hard, even when I'm absolutely sure that she's attracted to me, to escalate - every single time I've gotten laid it's been because she made a move, not me!

[malinga]

If I meet a girl and am trying to impress her then instantly I fall to pieces, my brain vanishes and thoughts exit my head so I can think of nothing, I go extremely hot and feel like I am starting to melt, become really self conscious and get knowwhere. This of course is when sober, when drunk It is so much easier, also if I don't find her attractive then I can get her eating out of my hand, laughing at everything I say and it really annoys me that I cannot be like this around attractive girls when sober.

[bobat6]

its practically all of them because of the approach.. :/ no its not cause of anxiety or low self esteem.. its just cause i dont wanna learn openers by heart.. so i dont know how to approach without openers.. + if i approach i donno how to keep the conversation going with her interested while showing interest

[GTTuner17]

Originally Posted by bobat6

its practically all of them because of the approach.. :/ no its not cause of anxiety or low self esteem.. its just cause i dont wanna learn openers by heart.. so i dont know how to approach without openers.. + if i approach i donno how to keep the conversation going with her interested while showing interest

Originally Posted by malinga

If I meet a girl and am trying to impress her then instantly I fall to pieces, my brain vanishes and thoughts exit my head so I can think of nothing, I go extremely hot and feel like I am starting to melt, become really self conscious and get know where. This of course is when sober, when drunk It is so much easier, also if I don't find her attractive then I can get her eating out of my hand, laughing at everything I say and it really annoys me that I cannot be like this around attractive girls when sober.

I used to do things like you both are doing. You guys just need to relax and be yourselves. Better yet, "Be your best self." Do not try to impress them, your just going to look fake and fail, act like they look like monkeys. I know in my case I had to learn openers cause it lead into a conversation. Also studying and watching stand up comedy. I do this cause I'm a writer, but it really helps.

If your not going to take the time out to at least try and memorize 2 or 3 lines, how can you expect to improve? Maybe I'm wrong, I'm new to the PUA thing too. I'm not where I want to be, but I'm happy where I'm at. I am going to keep going and get better.