thanks guys, great piece of Kino advice here!
What had worked for me in nightclubs is to follow this sequence:
-Hand contact: grab her hand(s) making note of rings, nail color, soft skin, ect
-Shoulder/hip: when talking to her slightly touch her shoulder with your finger or your shoulder as well. Alternate this with the same movement but using the hip.. you'd rather use your hand here hehe
-Cheek: if she's comfortable with hip/shoulder contact then I usually try to build some Tension by touching her cheek with mine while talking to her, remember music should be loud so you'll need to get closer to her ear (keep in mind not to shout, as this is so annoying, just speak loud and clear)
Right after that, and it depends how is your conversation/game going, I usually ask "are you a good kisser?" or "your lips looks so soft.." or something that would give me the chance to slowly go from her ear to her mouth, without contact yet, then hold for a moment; here you analyze how she reacted to your last move:
If she closes her eyes, then kiss!
She could actually take the wheel and kiss you or get event closer to your mouth!
of course these won't work for all girls, it's based on my experience.. but I've proved it really works if you combine it with some good dance.