Hi fellow pua's
I'm fairly new to this game, but I have studied several books on how to game women, and there is so much great material out there, so I feel pretty comfortable within this area. One thing I still lack though, is the understanding on how to deal with other guys, and how to "achieve" their approval. Don't get me wrong (I know the title might seem a bit misleading), but I don't wan't to learn how to hit on other guys. What I seek is some material about how to get friends, without making them percieve me as the beta kind-of-guy.
I have never had problems getting some friends, but I tend to position myself as the beta male, no matter what I do. If I try taking the lead and initiate conversations with new friends, it doesn't take long before I come of as "needy" (it feels like I desperately try to make new friends). On the other hand, if I try act like the "laid back"-type-of-guy, who doesn't need to initiate conversations, I feel like I come of as a shy loner instead... And I know the basics about how to use my body language, but obviously I must be doing something wrong.
So my question is:
Does any of you have some suggestions concerning material on how to deal with other GUYS/making friends without being percieved as a beta male?
I've been researching the area myself and found the following material:
- "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie
The problems with these, are that "How to win friends and influence people" seem to recommend being a "nice guy", which haven't worked really well for me so far. Otherwise I have been looking at "Secrets of the Alpha male" by Carlos Xuma, and some of the books by Robert Greene about the laws and strategies of power and war, but I'm not sure these books are exactly what I'm looking for, as I wan't some practical material on how to deal with other guys.
Sorry for long post, and my bad English (it's not my first language). Any suggestions would be highly appreciated.