Hey guys, been reading the forum for a while, but now signed up to discuss a problem that's really bugging me.
Short version: failed to get (or keep) an erection on three One Night Stands in a row. What could have been great f-closes, ended up pretty miserably. What the F*CK Never had this problem before (and physically everything's working fine) so what can I do about this??
Long version to share some more insight on the details:
After being single for over a year, and hardly any interaction with women at all, I recently started actively hitting on them again. After some failures and moderate successes (some crash & burn, some kissing, some number closing), about 7 weeks ago I had a really great night, chatted a girl up in a bar, kissed, and ended up going home with her.
Now she was hot (I'd rate her HB8½) and I was definitely into her, I was horny and I *really* felt like having sex with her. Back at her place we started kissing again, touching and undressing each other, but for some reason I couldn't get a hard on. I really felt like it, but no matter what, it just didn't happen. It wasn't definitely not her fault... but no reaction down there whatsoever.
Now she was easy going and didn't make a fuss about it. I tried to do the same, and reasoned to myself it just had been a while since I was with a women, and I was probably just nervous. No big deal.
A few weeks later (this was late January) however, same thing happened. Had a great night out with some friends, met a cute girl, we really had a connection going on, and at the end of the night she went home with me. Very much looking forward to bang her (and so was she). Obviously the memory of last time sneaked up on me, but I didn't pay attention to it and put my mind to other things. At first I didn't get an erection again for quite a while. I didn't want to focus on it too much, I went down on her, massaged here a little bit, kissed, stroked and touched her all over her body, had a great time, and eventually I sort of managed to get a boner (not 100% rock hard, but hard enough). But when we actually started farking, it lasted only for a few minutes and I just felt it go flaccid again.
Now I started to feel pretty uncomfortable at this point. But sure enough I tried to avoid the downward mental spiral of worrying, which only amplifies the problem, which only makes me worry more, etc.
OK so last weekend, well I'll spare the details but after a great Saturday night out, AGAIN I was all set and ready to have sex with a hot girl. And AGAIN I could not get it up. Obviously I was already anxious about it, which probably only made it worse. What the f*ck I tried not to make a big deal of it to her, but in my mind I was really freaking out. What's wrong with me!
I realize this is a psychological thing. Until that first time seven weeks ago, I've never had a erection problem EVER in my life. And I still don't when I'm alone. I can easily get it up (not necessarily with porn, I also fantasize) and I typically wake up having morning wood, or an erection now and then during the daytime, so physically everything is working.
I know it doesn't help but I'm getting desperate here Any of you guys ever had this experience? Any advice or tips how to get past this?? Any help is much appreciated!!