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Thread: Recommended book(s) that got you out from the zero social skills zone

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    Default Recommended book(s) that got you out from the zero social skills zone

    Hello Iím 26 and always had been struggling with social situations, I don't know how to express my ideas effectively, make friends, know new people, adapt to groups, etc.

    Most of the time I get ignored when I try, so Iím starting to avoid any kind of social thing, I never dealt with this before because I got used to be treated like that and argue that I was shy, but now it's affecting myself in the job and in the relationship department (I managed to get my first girlfriend but another men AMOG me in front of her or when we go out with groups to the point they start flirting with her and she responds).

    I started reading How to Win Friends and Influence People from Dale Carnegie, any good recommendations in body language, tone of voice or anything you think could be useful will be well appreciated.

    Thanks a lot

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    Default Re: Recommended book(s) that got you out from the zero social skills zone

    Read Leil Lowndes - How To Talk To Anyone
    Apply liberally and constantly.

    Also use some social confidence Hypnosis in conjunction to multiply your results. There are hundreds of free Hypnosis products but I often make my own now. I can recommend some of you like.

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    Default Re: Recommended book(s) that got you out from the zero social skills zone

    Reading "How to Win Friends and Influence People from Dale Carnegie" and "How To Talk To Anyone by Leil Lowndes" are good books to read so you can do better in a social setting. They will also help you get over your shyness.

    Don't expect an instant cure of your shyness if you read the books in 3 days and try to apply everything in the books.

    My recommendation to you is to read 1 single chapter and then go out and apply that skill in the field for 3 days. Then move to chapter 2 and then go out to apply what you have learned in both chapters for the next 3 days. Keep progressing like that and you'll conquer your shyness and gain a TON of confidence as well.

    You will build a foundation and keep adding to that very solid foundation every 3 days. It's how we learn. In the first grade you learned how to add 1+1 and how it equaled 2. The teacher didn't ask you to read the entire textbook and then ask you to apply what you had learned to find out what 1+1 will equal? The teacher taught us the basics and then kept building from the basic foundation on up.

    We need to do that when it comes to self help skills as well. The tendency we ALL have is to read through the material as quickly as possible hoping it will transform us magically and try to apply it all at once. Usually that will overwhelm most people and they just give up thinking that the stuff they read doesn't work.

    As for body language. Here is a great thread on body language courtesy of The Red Baron. You should start here.

    http://www.puaforums.com/how-flirt/1...ge-basics.html

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    Default Re: Recommended book(s) that got you out from the zero social skills zone

    @Miik I will give a look to Leil Lowndes's book, about the hypnosis i really don't know anything about it but if you give me a basic recommendation i will try it. Thanks a lot man.

    @Dave You got me there, when i focus on something i'm so impatient that i read the whole thing in one day. I'll try the 3 days per chapter.

    Also i'm thinking on buying this next days a product that i think can make my learning experience a little bit more effective. I want some reviews on it before (so i can expend some of the few dollars i got access to in my country in something productive) , so if some of you bought it or know about it, it would be very helpfull some info for me to decide.. It's Zach Brownman's Find Your Focus.

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    Default Re: Recommended book(s) that got you out from the zero social skills zone

    I started reading How to Win Friends and Influence People from Dale Carnegie, any good recommendations in body language, tone of voice or anything you think could be useful will be well appreciated.
    "how to win friends and influence people" is a great book for learning to be more "socially involved" and to keep from stepping on anyone's toes.

    however your problem seems to be AMOG's the people who want to have pissing matches with you. in witch case you may want to learn to step on toes.

    I would recommend you read david de angelo's "double your dating" its packed full of cocky funny quirks that you can use on other people to make you the amog.

    Read Leil Lowndes - How To Talk To Anyone
    how to talk to anyone is a good book, with its 92 body language/ conversational tips. I have complete respect for it, if you use her advice liberally you will likely present yourself better/more confidently.

    Also use some social confidence Hypnosis in conjunction to multiply your results. There are hundreds of free Hypnosis products but I often make my own now. I can recommend some of you like.
    for more self confidence I don't recommend self hypnosis, it can be very difficult to focus enough for it to work. you have to be very self disciplined if you want it to work.

    instead I recommend you read "be relentless" by david x (witch can be found on the internet for free) though he is a little profane, he is stone cold alpha and his book helps you to have the confidence to know what you want and go for it. I highly recommend it, its one of the few pua books that I've read more than 5 times because its mere 19 pages are so profound.

    btw I agree completely with dave about how you should be putting some of the skills to use rather than just speed reading.


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