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    RockNRollOutlaw is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Mindfullness meditation

    I have been keeping to an exercise routine but there were are times when I have fell away from it and considered giving it up for various reasons, whether out of boredom, is it worth the hassle or just whether I am capable of sustaining the routine, day in day out. I've had the same problem with various past-times whether studying a language, subject or playing a musical instrument.

    I managed to eventually get back into and keep to my exercise routine. I got inspired into seeing how I can improve my motivation through numerous unrelated conversations at work when talking about sports and in particular how top professional athletes lost through being unable to cope with pressure at major events. I looked into sports psychology and came across mindfulness mediation. A good link I found useful can be found if you google:
    CULTIVATING MENTAL DISCIPLINE: The Skill of Mindfulness, by John S. Shealy, Ph.D.
    The thing I had noticed with mindfulness and observing your thoughts was that there are ones that trigger negative responses which in turn cause negative behaviours. I'm sure we all experienced this when had an argument with somebody and you keep thinking about it later makes makes you even more angrier. You could say you have every right to be angry but by recognising that these are just thoughts, if that makes sense, and you don't need to dwell on them, puts things into a different perspective rather than being distracted by getting lost in the train of thoughts as you further dwell on it.

    Funnily enough, I've realised that thoughts which trigger positive responses can also trigger negative behaviour. An example of this is if you think about how good a beer would taste, the temptation is there to miss an exercise session and have those beers (there is always that one about I'll just wait until I do the session then have the beers but you never do!). There is also those thoughts were you feel good about the exercise routine and look forward to it but when you get to actually doing it, the enthusiasm disappears when you see the hard work you need to put in. When you realise that these are just thoughts also then it does put things into a different perspective.

    I've done this for a while and I feel a lot calmer and more balanced so to speak. I'm not saying it's made me perfect. I still have those times when I miss the occasional exercise session or get involved in arguments when I know I should have walked away but these are situations are starting to become the exception rather than the norm.

    It got me thinking about whether this could be helpful in picking up. I think the obvious one is when you think you are not getting any luck with woman you don't give up but also to manage expectation. There are many times when I've been going out for night-outs and being hyped out looking forward to it only when getting there, the atmosphere feels flat and you don't enjoy yourself. If you can keep the expectation in perspective, go out and make your own atmosphere then the night out will be better. I don't see why this can't be applied to picking up woman in a similar environment. As I mentioned, I am starting to get out more and seriously trying to pick up woman so will be interesting to see if this does work in practise.

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    pickuptranslator is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Mindfullness meditation

    Interesting, I am going to look into this. Not only for reasons of pick up but because I would enjoy improving my motivation to get things done.

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    Default Re: Mindfullness meditation

    I've taken a class in mindfulness... it's a good tool for relaxing. For me it's mostly been useful in everyday life, but I can see it being useful before a date or before approaching girls in clubs as a way to relax and get anxiety-levels down.


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