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    Default No motivation without a woman by my side

    Why donít I have any motivation without a woman in my life? And what can I do about the mental obstacle?

    Hi! Im a 30 year old guy who has lived a pretty chill life the last couple years. Having the luck of earning my living online gave me all the freedom in the world to do and experience the things that I wanted. But now thatís become pretty boring and mundane.

    Now that I wanted to move on to a new chapter in life and start doing something ďmore meaningfulĒ I find that I cant really be bothered if I donít have somebody that I really like by my side. Someone to fight for. My life is fine overall, nothing to complain about, but it feels like that piece of sharing it with somebody is missing.

    So, whats the deal with me? I think its unfair to put the burden of my personal drive on another person but I donít know what my problem is and why I feel this way?

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    Default Re: No motivation without a woman by my side

    Quote Originally Posted by continuous_learner View Post
    Why donít I have any motivation without a woman in my life? And what can I do about the mental obstacle?

    Hi! Im a 30 year old guy who has lived a pretty chill life the last couple years. Having the luck of earning my living online gave me all the freedom in the world to do and experience the things that I wanted. But now thatís become pretty boring and mundane.

    Now that I wanted to move on to a new chapter in life and start doing something ďmore meaningfulĒ I find that I cant really be bothered if I donít have somebody that I really like by my side. Someone to fight for. My life is fine overall, nothing to complain about, but it feels like that piece of sharing it with somebody is missing.

    So, whats the deal with me? I think its unfair to put the burden of my personal drive on another person but I donít know what my problem is and why I feel this way?
    I know exactly what you mean my friend (: i was just like that, i only fought and had motivation to do a lot of things because of a girl. but you realize you must do it for yourself. and that woman will eventually join on that ride of yours

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    Default Re: No motivation without a woman by my side

    Cool. How did you handle it?

    Sometimes Ive thought of putting all my focus on trying to find a real girlfriend material, but that means that im searching outside myself for "meaning" in life. But at the same time i feel that having someone to share my life with is one of the most meaningful thing in life. And i wonder if it isnt a natural drive to want to have something besides oneself to fight for? Idk, im confused :S

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    Default Re: No motivation without a woman by my side

    It's easy to fall into that trap.
    It's a form of neediness that lots of guys have. (I was there myself at one point.)

    Happiness & motivation shouldn't be something you only get from someone else.
    When you're happy with (and accept) yourself for whom you are, and you want to continuously improve upon that, then you'll see things more clearly.

    It's perfectly fine to want one special person, and have that as your ultimate goal.
    But don't put yourself in a place that you're lost if you don't have someone.


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    Default Re: No motivation without a woman by my side

    Quote Originally Posted by T-Mal View Post
    It's easy to fall into that trap.
    It's a form of neediness that lots of guys have. (I was there myself at one point.)

    Happiness & motivation shouldn't be something you only get from someone else.
    When you're happy with (and accept) yourself for whom you are, and you want to continuously improve upon that, then you'll see things more clearly.

    It's perfectly fine to want one special person, and have that as your ultimate goal.
    But don't put yourself in a place that you're lost if you don't have someone.

    Thanks a lot brother for your very deep and insightful response!


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