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Thread: A good respond to the question "You don't talk much"

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    Default A good respond to the question "You don't talk much"

    Even if I'm social with my friends, which I know them, I'm not very social with a group of new people. If for example I'm on a trip with a lot of new people. This is my style. I cannot try to think subjects/questions for discussion in a group that I don't know the people. And I don't like to ask a strange girl the usual questions such as "What did you study" and "What are you doing for a living". I like listening to others and if I have something to say, I will say it.

    So to the point, I always have girls asking me "Why you don't talk?". I used to respond "That's my style" with a little smile so I don't look arrogant and mean. And I always feel bad after this question because I feel that I should talk much, as the other people do.

    A few days ago I decided that THIS IS A PART OF MYSELF. Maybe it is a negative one, but it is so hard for me trying to act different. Instead, I'm trying to think something clever/funny to respond when I have this question.

    I would like to hear from you guys, if you have something in mind that will give me some points of cocky/funny if I throw it after I have this question.

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    Default Re: A good respond to the question "You don't talk much"

    Why don't you just state that you are the type who prefers listening to others, and if you have something good to add, you will?

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    Default Re: A good respond to the question "You don't talk much"

    LOLOLOLOL!!! hahahaha dude I used to be the same exact way, introverted as sh*t doing the same things you do.

    The fact that they are asking you "why don't you talk" is actually an ioi/ sh*t test and its actually a GOOD thing. To this you should reply "what are you the conversation police?" or anything that counter teases them back( make sure to have a bit of a grin/smile on your face to let them know your just being playful). Face-palm yourself, don't ever say "that's my style" again, this is a dlv as you are validating yourself to them and come off looking like a chump.

    The reason why you feel that this is "apart of who you are" is because you are comfortable being that way (aka your comfort zone) Your brain will make you feel more discomfort as you try to break out of it, because factually your brain likes to be comfortable and doesn't want to change as it takes LESS EFFORT to stay the same, so it picks the easiest path it can.

    What you can do is, have a bunch of topics ready in your head from before hand and just freestyle them when you meet people, you don't have to stick to a routine with them but having something to talk about before hand will help. It takes time man, it took me a long time to get out of it, but as you keep trying eventually you'll see yourself getting better.

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    Default Re: A good respond to the question "You don't talk much"

    If she says that you don't talk much, that's a semi-big indicator that she's into you like Wildstorm said or she's being friendly bc you're being awkward in a group & she doesn't know how to address it lol^

    I encounter this problem frequently, mostly bc I'm introverted as well not bc I'm awkward LOL.

    2 ways to go about it.

    *this stuff works best IN PERSON when it's only you 2 or 1 other person* I haven't really tested over text or online or in large 10+ groups

    1.) tease her back, be fun, tell a cheesy joke, etc.
    example:

    a.) You talk too much! What're you trying to do, learn my whole life story so you can put a ring on this finger?? I'm wayyyy too high maintenance for you shortie
    B.) where's your boyfriend?? Clearly he's not keeping you entertained, or spanking you enough...
    c.) oh ya? What do you call an alligator in a vest?? *pause wait for her to respond* An in-vesti-gator! Hehe!
    (works especially well in Isolation)

    2.) be dominant with her, make her qualify.. Tell her:

    a.) Entertain me squirrel girl
    b.) you're not interesting me, if you keep this up I'm totally going back to my ex wife & she nearly tried to kill me the last time we hungout.

    be yourself, if you're quiet & introverted like me, that's awesome. Just own it with CONFIDENCE and never defend it. It becomes a challenge to girls when they can't get you to open up or figure you out & you spike attraction in her right from the start.


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