I just wanted to make this thread to share what no contact and being indifferent towards my ex has done for me.
So like some of you know, my ex broke up with me 2 months ago and I implemented no contact very early on. I didn't just go no contact but I told her that we shouldn't talk.
Well it was by far the hardest thing I have ever done. I was very skeptical of not contacting her at first. I thought she would get over me faster but I stuck with it. Since then I have updated my wardrobe, updated my vehicle, worked out and mingled with other women. Don't get me wrong, there were many nights where I would constantly think about what she was doing or thinking.
She threw many sh1t tests my way but I would pass every damn one of them. I never showed emotion toward her and was always indifferent to whatever she had to say, yet I wasn't rude.
So fast forward to now. Any contact in the last week or so has come from her. I think she finally has realized that I am doing fine without her and its starting to show through her actions. Just a couple days ago we were in the same club together. I paid her no attention. She was literally trying to find anyone to dance with her and it was obvious she was putting on a show. She approached me and started a conversation and asked if I was over her and wanted me to pinky promise, in which I did. I didn't know what to make of this. But why would she care if I was over her or not? I found a attractive girl and did some pretty dirty dancing with her without even thinking what my ex was doing. I have heard from multiple friends that saw her, say that she looked upset about something. AND I LOVE IT.
I have gained a lot of control over the past 2 months and it feels great. Being indifferent towards her has been extremely hard to do but wow it works. I have developed a plan and have stuck to it through out this time. I wouldn't say that I am over her completely but I am fine with whatever happens. I finally am starting to see her as just another girl. By what I see on facebook and in person is a very desperate and confused person. She is obviously not being herself and that says a lot.
Things are finally starting to look up for my situation. If there was one piece of advice I could give it would be to stick to one strategy. Don't change what you are doing because of things that she says or does. Stay the course.